Saying “boys will be boys”, or something similar gives boys an out to being assholes.
You see a group of boys being loud and disruptive, “oh, that’s just boys being boys”. You see a girl being told, “that just means he likes you”, after a boy tugs on her braids.
By making these excuses for boys we’re teaching them that it’s okay to be disrespectful. That hurting someone is how you show attraction.
Hair tuggers grow into men who hit their girlfriends and won’t take no for an answer.
We need to teach our boys that when you like someone, you don’t hurt them. You pick them flowers, or give them a compliment, or share your snack.
We need to teach our boys that it’s not always appropriate to be loud.
We need to teach our boys how to be kind and respectful.
No more flimsy excuses.
No more “boys will be boys”.